Drake - Take Care ft. Rihanna (Official Video)

I saw this video last night (yes I was watching the Pauly D show... don't judge...lol) but this video came on after and I was absolutely totally blown away!!!

One by the fact that MTV actually showed a video... :op

But... I don't know; the words, the images... all of it really just made me take an extra deep breath and gave me goose bumps. 

This is one of those songs that the words express the beauty that is part of life (love lost, love won and the hurt that involves) but the images in the video I think is a wonderful example of how (when we open ourselves up) we are able to express a feeling that we all have felt (maybe still feeling) in a way that makes me know there is a higher power as the intense beauty of it all coming together can run thru you and make you smile and cry at the same time...

Don’t catch me now… I just want to keep on falling somehow...

Don't Catch Me - Kadie Hodges

This song brought loves sweet tears to my eyes.  I love Love so much and this is one of those songs that explains so well as to what love is for me.

I see a lot of people who have an “idea” of what love should be… Maybe because of experience while growing up or different experiences they have run across in their lives.  Some get lost in Hollywood’s version of what love should be like. 

Me… I just keep on falling… I love with all of me… In Family, in Friends, in Lovers, I love with all of me.  I don’t have an idea of what love is or should be like I just feel it and let it into me and try to make that love that I feel for the person shine out to them.  This scares some people (mostly potential lovers) but some Friends have been taken aback by this also.  

Now I understand no one likes to get hurt… Trust me I know this but I love the way this song speaks to the walls people put up so as not to get hurt.  The chorus below is what struck me most.  

“So don’t catch me now… I just want to keep on falling somehow…

So don’t stop me now I just want to keep this going somehow…. Keep on falling”

People who feel that love, sometimes don’t know how to handle it so they stop it… Stop the person who is falling from falling.  They are worried about getting hurt and in that worry although not intentional  they are the one doing the hurting as they are stopping what they / we /all deserved from coming… From falling into them.  

Love doesn’t go away it is always there you just have to let the person with that love fall.  You don’t need to catch them you just need to allow them to be who they are and who they are is someone that loves you for who you are even if you don’t know who you are.

Think about the past relationships you’ve had that didn’t work… Now I am not so naive as to not understand all too well that many many factors play into this so I don’t want to trivialize past hurts by any means.  What I want to do is point out what this song sings to me is that if both people didn’t stop each other from falling then that initial love that was (for some still is) there will keep on falling…

That sensation that washes over you that all is possible, the feeling of your soul smiling because you feel so much love with each step it feels like you are floating and then when you close your eyes and feel the intensity it truly does feel like you are falling.

 

How to Love Again

How to Love Again?  It is a simple question but the answer will be different for all of us.  Can you truly love again if you have been so devastatingly hurt?  The love you once knew and cherished is no longer.  The person who you have held (and still hold) in your heart of hearts does not return your love.  How do you move on?  Can you truly rationalize what has happened and not let it affect you?

The reason I ask is because I have no idea… I have a friend (no really it’s not me) who is going thru this right now and I have no idea how to help.  I know by just listening I’m being a good friend because we all need a sounding board but it also gets me thinking.

I see how much love he has/had for this person and I truly feel his pain that it is no longer what he wants or needs it to be for him to be happy but that leaves the question of “How to Love Again”?

I kind of noticed this back when I was dating that (at least the men I ran across) were not over their last relationship yet they were out dating because of either loneliness or feeling like this is what they had to do.

I can understand that I mean no one wants to be alone.  We need that physical touch and emotional support and to feel like we can return that same in kind but “How to Love Again”?   

If you are not ready how do you let others know that you just need sometime.  And when does the line get crossed of taking too much time and hiding your heart away to never get hurt again?

I have a hard time answering this because of how I am.  I feel love for everyone I meet and as I get to know them better that love grows.  Now it grows differently for each person of course but it is still love so for me to have to try to put myself in someone else shoes of questioning whether you can love again I’m at a loss.  How to Love Again for me is as easy as breathing.  Yes I have learned lessons that I do not give my heart away as easily as I once did but love, oh sweet sweet love, the how, the why, the who will always reveal itself in time. 

Maybe “How to Love Again” is as simple as being able to keep an open mind and not forcing the square peg thru a round hole if you will… 

Hmmmmm? How to Love Again?